What is an orgasm?\u00a0<\/b><\/p>\n
An orgasm will occur after there is proper stimulation of the genitals or erogenous zones. It\u2019s the ultimate peak in sexual arousal, creating a wonderful and intense feeling of pleasure as your body releases sexual tension and pressure. An orgasm will allow your entire body and genital area to experience intense feelings of pleasure.<\/span><\/p>\n What\u2019s happening to our body when we orgasm for those with a clitoris?<\/b><\/p>\n Before and during an orgasm, your heart rate, pulse, blood pressure and breathing increases. The muscles everywhere in your body, especially in your pelvic area, can become tense and start to spasm.\u00a0 If your rate of breathing increases dramatically this can cause some degree of hyperventilation which can lead to mild chest pain.<\/span><\/p>\n When your clitoris is touched, caressed, rubbed or stroked (with varying degrees of pressure) you may become sexually aroused, the vagina becomes lubricated, expanding and lengthening with swelling of the vagina, labia and clitoris, and bringing more blood flow to this entire area. With this sexual arousal, there is an increased blood flow to the genitals and the tensing of muscles throughout the body, particularly in the genitals. An orgasm will cause the vaginal walls and muscles of the uterus will contract rhythmically.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n How do women achieve orgasm?<\/b><\/p>\n It\u2019s well known that the female orgasm is under-researched and there is a lack of female\u2019s voices discussing this complicated issue around sexual pleasure. The time is now to embrace this stigmatized topic and understand how best reach an orgasm in the most enjoyable and fulfilling way. The clitoris is the center of female pleasure which was originally thought to have 8,000 nerve fibers…at least in cows.\u00a0 Recent research in humans now shows the clitoris has over 10,000 nerve fibers. Its sole purpose is to give pleasure. You have to understand how to give yourself pleasure FIRST before you can share you sexual joy with a partner. This physical, mental and emotional bond with a partner is essential for a healthy meaningful and sexual relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n There are 4 different phases involving the female orgasm.<\/span><\/p>\n They include the excitement, plateau, climax, and resolution phases.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n <\/p>\n How many types of female orgasm are there?<\/b><\/p>\n Traditionally there are 5 primary types of female orgasms.<\/span><\/p>\n <\/p>\n Is it always obvious that someone is having\/has had an orgasm,\u00a0to both the individual having one and to others?<\/b><\/p>\n For some people it can appear to be \u201cobvious\u201d they are having an orgasm. It could be loud joyous moans combined with involuntary body movements but the truth is it can be hard to tell. Who can forget the iconic <\/span>When Harry Met Sally<\/span><\/i> moment of how an orgasm should sound? Certain body movements happen during an orgasm which is impossible to fake. Involuntary mini spasms of the vaginal wall can be felt with fingers or a penis during a true orgasm.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n Still for some, it\u2019s hard to tell, and who really cares as long as the sexual experience for both people are enjoyable and real.<\/span><\/p>\n <\/p>\n Who\u2019s faking it?<\/b><\/p>\n Orgasm is obvious, right? In crossing the orgasmic finish line, your male partner ejaculates, and, if you\u2019re a woman, you may tend towards something more, well, verbal. It\u2019s true; women <\/span>are, <\/span><\/i>for the most part,<\/span> more verbal than men in sex\u2014as well as in a whole host of other circumstances. According to a large study by Charlene Muehlenhard, a professor of clinical psychology at the University of Kansas in Lawrence, women tend to rely on more obvious signs and vocalizations to alert their partner of \u201cmission accomplished.\u201d Muehlenhard also says that studies done since the 70s repeatedly show, on average, heterosexual women fake their orgasms 59% of the time during vaginal sex. Similar studies find the same percentage fake orgasms during oral sex, too.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n Dr. Erin Cooper, a clinical psychologist at Temple University, found in a study on a college campus that the main reasons women fake orgasm is \u201cout of concern for a partner\u2019s feeling, fear of negative emotions associated with the sexual experience, sexual insecurity about their own dysfunction, concerns about being abnormal, to end sex and [interestingly enough] to\u00a0increase their own sexual arousal.<\/span><\/p>\n What are the top 5 reasons women fake their orgasms?<\/b><\/p>\n ABC news found the top 5 reasons why women fake their orgasms include<\/span><\/p>\n What about lesbians, do they fake orgasms with their partner?<\/b><\/p>\n A study from the <\/span>Journal of Sex Research<\/span><\/i> found that women having lesbian sex experience higher rates of orgasm than their straight counterparts, that they have sex more often, and that they have higher levels of sexual satisfaction. Sort of makes sense since lesbians are more in touch and acquainted with other women\u2019s bodies, making navigation easier. But, ladies, get ready for this tidbit, researchers also discovered that 24% of men fake <\/span>their<\/span><\/i> orgasms!\u00a0What was <\/span>their<\/span><\/i> main reason for faking it?\u00a0The desire to get sex over with!<\/span><\/p>\n <\/p>\n Do men ever fake orgasms?<\/b>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n Men fake it too! One study found that 36% of men have fake it at least once using \u201cvoice acting\u201d.<\/span><\/p>\n <\/p>\n What should I do if I fake my orgasms a lot?<\/b><\/p>\n If you desire real sexual satisfaction but find yourself faking orgasms more often than not, especially with a partner you are truly interested in, it\u2019s best to be open about your issues and consider seeking professional help.\u00a0In today\u2019s world, no one should fake it anymore.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n You are the person in charge of your vagina and clitoris. First and foremost, get to know your female parts intimately. Understanding your sexual response is a necessary health and wellness skill. Make mastery of that skill a priority. You are the one to lead yourself to your own sexual freedom and satisfaction. Investigate, masturbate, give your vagina the attention it needs and deserves. After all, you have the power to create your sexual roadmap.<\/span><\/p>\n <\/p>\n What is an erogenous zone?<\/b><\/p>\n An erogenous zone is basically any area on your body that has a heightened sensitivity when stimulated to elicit a sexual response. Erogenous zones are completely different for everybody.<\/span><\/p>\n Common erogenous zones include, clitoris, vagina, penis, testicle, mouth, neck, ears, lips, nipples, back, hands, lower stomach, ear lobe, hair, scalp, inner wrist, buttock, behind the knee, anus, bottoms of the feet and armpits.<\/span><\/p>\n Find you sweet spots! Make a date to be uninterrupted and naked with yourself or with a partner for a day—-and explore all the nukes and crannies on each other\u2019s body.<\/span><\/p>\n <\/p>\n Occasional I will have an orgasm while I sleep even though I am not touching myself? Why would this happen?<\/b><\/p>\n \u201cHands-free\u201d orgasms for women can happen while you sleep.\u00a0 Unlike men, women\u2019s sexual desire, excitement and energy tend to begin in that great organ <\/span>above the shoulders, <\/span><\/i>rather than the one <\/span>below the waist<\/span><\/i>.\u00a0 A woman\u2019s orgasm is mainly psychologically driven. This also applies to orgasm happening while you sleep.\u00a0 A sex dream awakens the brains which starts the cascade affect leading to orgasm. Often sexual dreams can begin a sexual response ending in an orgasm.\u00a0 Some women will wake themselves up to feeling rhythmic vaginal contractions and wetness.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n <\/p>\n What are some of the slang names for an orgasm?<\/b><\/p>\n The Big O, Get Off, Blow One\u2019s Lump, Cleave The Pin, Le Petite Mort, At the Peak, Melt, Cum, Coming, Ejaculate, Ejaculated, Ejaculates, Ejaculations, Pleasure, Sexual Satisfaction, Squirt, Climax, Apex, Sexual Climax, Apogee, Acme, Culmination, Pinnacle, High Point, Consummation, Crest, Hit High Spot, End, Height, Reach a Peak, Pleasure, Break Record, Reach The Zenith, Rise to Crescendo, Spasm, Aphrodisia, Convulsion. Act of Love, Bust a Nut, Comings, Ecstasy, Fervor, Male Orgasm, Zeal, Achieve Orgasm, Come, Have an Orgasm, Meridian, Summit, Vertex, Cap, Accomplish, Achieve, Finish, Fulfill, Top, Tower, Break The Record, Come To A Head, Hit High Spot, Conclude, Content, Crown, End,\u00a0 Please, Satisfy, Succeed, Terminate, Top, Tower, Rise to Crescendo<\/span><\/p>\n <\/p>\n Why are “wet dreams” more common in men?\u00a0<\/b><\/p>\n \u201cWet dreams\u201d occur when men ejaculate while they sleep.\u00a0 Wet dreams begin during puberty when the male hormone, testosterone kicks into high gear creating sperm.\u00a0 Male erections commonly occur spontaneously throughout the day and night.\u00a0 In order for the sperm build-up to be released, ejaculation occurs. \u00a0 Women do not have the same equivalent body function.\u00a0 Wet dreams are more common in men who do not have a steady sex partner or masturbate regularly.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n <\/p>\n Why am I not enjoying sex?<\/b><\/p>\n For some women, finding and\/or enjoying sexual intimacy and sex is difficult, if not impossible. Research suggests that 43%<\/span><\/p>\n \u00a0of women report some degree of difficulty and twelve percent attribute their sexual difficulties to personal distress. Unfortunately, sexual problems worsen with age, peaking in women 45 to 64.\u00a0 For many of these women, the problems of sexual dysfunction are treatable, which is why (again) it is so important for women to share their feelings and concerns with a healthcare provider.<\/span><\/p>\n There are five main problems under the umbrella of Female Sexual Dysfunction (FSD):<\/span><\/p>\n <\/p>\n Understanding the cause of sexual dysfunction is the most important step in optimizing a <\/span>treatment plan<\/b>. Relationship counseling, stress reduction, sex therapy, or a weekend away with your partner without the kids may be all that\u2019s needed to get you back on track.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n My partner and I like to have orgasms together but it is hard to time it well? Any thoughts?<\/b><\/p>\n Having an orgasm at the same time as your partner is blissful but can be challenging.\u00a0 As long as you know your \u201clead up time\u201d to have an orgasm you can coordinate simultaneous orgasms.<\/span><\/p>\n Spooning each other while one partner reaches in front while the other reaches in the back to touch the clitoris can be a great way to have a simultaneous orgasm. This can also work while lying on your sides, face to face. Using a heavy-duty vibrator (Original Magic Wand is best!) while your partner lays on top of you also is a perfect way to orgasm together.<\/span><\/p>\n It\u2019s all in the timing, so you and your partner need to know each other\u2019s rhythm in order to achieve success together!<\/span><\/p>\n Everyone, regardless of gender, has a different sexual arousal barometer. Good communication with your partner along with sexual experiences together helps us learn our partners sexual behaviors, preferences and overall, appetite leading to orgasm. If your goal is to orgasm together, you will need to express yourself comfortably and openly to reach the finish line together.<\/span><\/p>\n <\/p>\n What is Hypoactive Sexual Desire Disorder (HSDD)or simply put low or lack of a sex drive?<\/b><\/p>\n Hypoactive sexual disorder,<\/span> the most common female sexual dysfunction, is characterized by a complete absence of sexual desire. For the sixteen million women who suffer from this disorder, the factors involved may vary since sexual desire in women is much more complicated than it is for men. Unlike men, women\u2019s sexual desire, excitement, and energy tend to begin in that great organ <\/span>above the shoulders, <\/span><\/i>rather than the one <\/span>below the waist<\/span><\/i>. The daily stresses of work, money, children, relationships, and diminished energy are common issues contributing to low libido in women. Other causes may be depression, anxiety, lack of privacy, medication side effects, medical conditions such as endometriosis or arthritis, menopausal symptoms such as a dry vagina, or a history of physical or sexual abuse.\u00a0 It\u2019s not a myth after all that women are more <\/span>complicated<\/span><\/i> than men.<\/span><\/p>\n <\/p>\n What\u2019s the best treatment plan for someone suffering from a low sex drive?<\/b><\/p>\n Unfortunately, there has been a history of \u201cgender injustice\u201d in the bedroom. Women have long been ignored when it comes to finding solutions to sexual dysfunction.\u00a0 The FDA has approved over 20 medications for erectile dysfunction versus only 2 for women. Clearly, little attention has been paid to the sexual concerns of women, other than those concerns that involve procreation. The FDA claims that it wants to approve medications for female sexual dysfunction, but they are waiting for ones with minimal side effects, substantial health benefits, and unlikely potential for misuse\u2014a tall order indeed, especially for the estimated sixteen million women in the U.S. who suffer from a lack of libido.<\/span><\/p>\n Treatment should definitely be individualized. Lifestyle modification, education, psychotherapy, behavior therapy, cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT), mindfulness-based CBT, sex therapy and medications are strategies used to treat this common sexual disorder.<\/span><\/p>\n One of the medications that has a lot of success is Flibanserin, a drug commonly known as Addyi, and is one of the official drugs to show some benefit in improving sexual satisfaction in premenopausal and menopausal women. Side effects on Addyi include dizziness, somnolence, nausea, fatigue, insomnia, low blood pressure, fainting and dry mouth.<\/span><\/p>\n Testosterone, EROS device, vaginal estrogen, vaginal DHEA and the Morpheus8 and Mona Lisa Laser are all treatment options depending on the cause of you low sex drive.<\/span><\/p>\n Work with a trusted healthcare specialist who has experience in this area to find the best treatment options for you.<\/span><\/p>\n <\/p>\n How long does it take, on average, a woman to orgasm?<\/b><\/p>\n <\/p>\n A study done in 2020 estimated it took between 6 and 20 minutes for a woman to orgasm during partnered sex, with an average of 14 minutes. 69% of women reported that intercourse alone was not sufficient to lead to an orgasm. The majority of women reported that during intercourse, they would orgasm faster with longer lasting orgasms when they were on top of their partner allowing for more consistent clitoral stimulation.<\/span><\/p>\n <\/p>\n With masturbation, an orgasm took an average of 8 minutes. During an orgasm, the muscles in the vagina may contract once per second for around 5 to 8 times. Women\u2019s orgasms depend on many factors, including the amount and type of sexual stimulation, the state of the relationship, a person\u2019s overall health, and how she feels about her partner and sex in general.<\/span><\/p>\n <\/p>\n Women must communicate with their partner on what they like and don\u2019t like to orgasm.<\/span><\/p>\n <\/p>\n How long does it take, on average, for a man to orgasm?<\/b><\/p>\n <\/p>\n The average time it takes for a man to orgasm is 5 to 6 minutes during vaginal intercourse. And when it comes to masturbation, men take just 2 minutes.\u00a0 The typical male orgasm will last anywhere between 5 and 22 seconds. An estimated 1 in 3 men have experienced premature ejaculation.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n <\/p>\n \u00a0What is the \u201corgasm gap\u201d between men and women?<\/b><\/p>\n In general, it\u2019s easier, far less complicated, and faster for men to orgasm compared to women. Men, on average, can have an orgasm within 5 minutes. Women, on the other hand, have a harder time achieving orgasm taking on average of 14-20 minutes to achieve one. The orgasm gap describes heterosexual women having fewer orgasms then men, which should not surprise anyone.<\/span><\/p>\n Heterosexual women fake their orgasms 59% of the time during vaginal sex.<\/span><\/p>\n <\/p>\n Here\u2019s the problem.\u00a0 A very interesting statistic is straight sex lasts an average of 7 minutes. Very few women can have an orgasm in 7 minutes. So, no one is surprised to know that 25% of women faked it 90% of the time. 80% of women fake orgasms during vaginal sex at least half the time and why?? The 3 most common reasons include wanting to please a partner, wanting to hurry it up and not wanting to hurt your partner\u2019s feelings.<\/span><\/p>\n <\/p>\n Both partners must understand the orgasm gap to women can be allowed the time and energy to achieve an orgasm. Education matters, especially under the sheets.<\/span><\/p>\n Why is it important to remember that orgasms aren’t the end-all-be-all for sex?\u00a0<\/b><\/p>\n <\/p>\n For some women, not achieving an orgasm during sexual activity is fine and acceptable. There are times where having an orgasm is not possible and it\u2019s good to know it\u2019s not always the endgame with your partner or with yourself. To these women, the closeness, touching, cuddling, kissing and sharing of affection is more important than the actual orgasm. Other women may feel that if they don\u2019t have an orgasm, they have a sexual problem or an orgasmic disorder.\u00a0 Be honest with yourself and your partner. If you are not able to orgasm during sexual activity with your partner, let it be known, it\u2019s liberating\u2026and much better than faking it!<\/span><\/p>\n <\/p>\n Can women squirt with orgasm?\u00a0<\/b><\/p>\n I have often been asked if it\u2019s normal to \u201csquirt\u201d during an orgasm. \u201cGushing, Squirting, Female Ejaculation, Coming\u201d are words to describe a true sexual phenomenon.\u00a0 \u00a0 When sexually aroused or stimulated there is an expulsion of fluid that comes from the glands around a women\u2019s urethra, or anterior surface of the vagina, during or before an orgasm.\u00a0 This occurrence is also thought to be related to having your G-spot stimulated.\u00a0 It was found that 10-50% of women have at one time or another had a \u201cgushing\u201d moment during orgasm.\u00a0 For some the gush feels as though you are wetting the bed and for others it is less obvious.\u00a0 Others are confused that they are actually losing urine when sexually aroused.\u00a0 If you think that the fluid is actually urine than this should be further discussed with your health care provider.<\/span><\/p>\n <\/p>\n Can women have multiple orgasms?<\/b><\/p>\n Those with a clitoris are capable of multiple orgasm if they have the time, patience and desire to do so. Most women and their partners don\u2019t plan on having multiple orgasm plain and simple. The majority of women are happy having one orgasm and don\u2019t have the time or energy to work on having another. Barbara Bartlik, MD, clinical assistant professor of psychiatry at Weill Medical College of Cornell University in New York, NY as says, “These days, people are very busy and they just don’t have time for sex. When they do have time for sex, they don’t have the energy to work for more than one orgasm,” she says. They may also feel greedy about looking for a second or third orgasm. It feels like asking for a second or third slice of birthday cake. “Many women are comfortable and satisfied with one orgasm, and they don’t want to try for more,” says Bartlik, who adds, “Instead of thinking about multiple orgasms as an embarrassment of riches, why not think of them as making up for lost time?”<\/span><\/p>\n Jennifer Bareffot, MA says \u201cMultiple orgasms are a series of sequential orgasmic experiences that occur in quick succession. And when it comes to multiples, women have the biological upper hand over men. This is because unlike men, women don’t experience a refractory period (the period of time after men ejaculate when they can’t be aroused). So women can and do respond immediately after orgasm to more (or hopefully continuous) clitoral, vaginal, and G-spot (that small, raised bump of urethral tissue just inside your vagina along its front wall) stimulation.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n <\/p>\n Barbara Bartlik, MD, clinical assistant professor of psychiatry at Weill Medical College of Cornell University in New York, NY as says women can \u201cteach\u201d themselves how to have multiple orgasms.<\/span><\/p>\n Here are her recommendations:<\/span><\/p>\n Why would I have pain with my orgasm?\u00a0<\/b><\/p>\n <\/p>\n Pain with orgasm is probably more common than woman talk about. Causes of painful orgasms include not be adequately lubricated, vulvar or clitoral irritants such as soaps, creams and rubber products, vulvar skin conditions such as Lichen Sclerosis, vaginal dryness caused by menopause and rough sex.<\/span><\/p>\n <\/p>\n In addition to painful orgasm\u2019s, you may also experience excruciating sex. There are many reasons including vaginal dryness, vaginal infections, vaginal tears, latex allergy, ruptured ovarian cyst, endometriosis, vaginismus (involuntary spasm of vaginal muscles at the entrance to the vagina), virginal, emotional problems such as anxiety, history of sexual abuse and positional sex.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n <\/p>\n What is edging?<\/b><\/p>\n Edging is controlling your orgasms. It involves sexual stimulation and stopping just before you are about to orgasm. The idea is to control your sexual enjoyment for longer periods of time, intensifying the experience.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n The primary benefit is to increase the intensity of orgasm. People with premature ejaculation may find edging beneficial since it ultimately increases the duration of sex before orgasm. 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