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What should I focus on in sexual wellness in my 20\u2019s?<\/b><\/p>\n
Your 20\u2019s are spent trying to understand your body, your sexuality and your ability to feel and receive pleasure.\u00a0 Every woman in her 20s is quietly trying to figure out what is \u201cher\u201d normal. According to a recent study from the University of Montreal, sexual desires and behaviors that are considered abnormal in psychiatry are actually <\/span>the norm<\/span><\/i>. So, unfortunately, there\u2019s no one-size-fits-all answer when it comes to sexual norm, but there is a way to help you understand your own <\/span>normal\u2014<\/span><\/i>your own sexuality. Explore you pleasure and erogenous zones and know what you like and enjoy so you can share it with a partner.<\/span><\/p>\n <\/p>\n Why is sex so important?<\/b><\/p>\n Our sex and sexualit<\/span>y<\/span><\/i> are as part of our lives as is eating and sleeping.\u00a0 Having sex-with yourself or a partner- is an important aspect of our wellbeing, and, in a healthy romantic relationship, it\u2019s as important as love and affection. Enjoyable sex is learned. Sure, there\u2019s instinct and maybe a dusting of magic involved, but you don\u2019t magically have an orgasm without having an active role in making it happen. You and your partner have to acknowledge each other\u2019s likes and dislikes, and learn how to satisfy each other. Open and honest conversations are necessary to make the sexual experience optimal for both of you, whether you have multiple partners or self-esteem to spare.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n Low Sex Drive<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n Why do I have a low sex drive?\u00a0<\/b><\/p>\n Intimacy, sex and orgasm often all begin with desire.\u00a0 If you don\u2019t have any desire, you will not be able to have an orgasm-plain and simple, mission will <\/span>not <\/span><\/i>be accomplished! Let\u2019s face it a woman\u2019s sex drive is complicated and often challenging to understand.\u00a0 A low sex drive or low libido is the most common sexual complaint affecting millions (40 million to be exact!) of women. Women\u2019s sexual desire and appetite begins in that great organ <\/span>above the shoulders, <\/span><\/i>rather than the one <\/span>below the waist<\/span><\/i>. The daily stresses of work, money, children, relationships and diminished energy are common issues contributing to a low libido in women. Other causes may be pain with sex, depression, anxiety, lack of privacy, medication side effects, medical conditions such as endometriosis, high blood pressure or arthritis, menopausal symptoms, or a history of physical or sexual abuse.\u00a0 Significant and on-going stress also affects our libido.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n Is having sex really healthy for you?<\/b><\/p>\n There are very few things better in life for your heart, body and soul, literally, then consensual sex. Emotionally, sex is comforting, calming, relieves stress, reduces anxiety and boosts your confidence and overall sense of well-being.\u00a0 It\u2019s also thought that regular sex allows women and men to look younger and live longer. There are many physical benefits.\u00a0 For starters, the act of sexual intimacy can be a great workout and count as such for many as their daily exercise regimen. Other medical benefits of regular sex is it makes for a stronger immune system, fighting off common illnesses such as colds and having less sick days from work.\u00a0 Regular sex helps lower your blood pressure and lowers your risk of heart attacks. Sex stimulates the vaginas natural secretions and increases blood flow. The natural lubrication created by the vagina keeps the integrity of the tissue healthy and strong. The more sex you have the more sex you want so it\u2019s a great to boost your sexual desire and libido. Regular sex is ideal for a healthy relationship and supports healthy living. It\u2019s also important to point out regular sex with <\/span>yourself<\/span><\/i> also has health benefits. Masturbation also gives you some of these same physical and emotional perks.<\/span><\/p>\n <\/p>\n Do I really have to make sex a priority?<\/b><\/p>\n <\/p>\n Regardless of your age, a person\u2019s sexual health has to be made a priority in life. Despite life\u2019s expected obstacles and hormonal challenges, a sexual and intimate life reminds you that your body deserves to be celebrated and pleasure may be within an arm\u2019s reach.<\/span><\/p>\n <\/p>\n It\u2019s uncomfortable for me to talk about sex? Any Advice?<\/b><\/p>\n People are not talking about sexual health or making it a priority.\u00a0 It may give you comfort knowing that 40% of your girlfriends are having some sexual difficulties as well. Depending where you are in life, sexual health issues create a roadblock.\u00a0 It may surprise you that 10 to 50% of women have never had an orgasm. You may wonder how this is possible but talking about sex and sexual dysfunction is not a comfortable conversation with your partner, your BFF or your health care provider.\u00a0 50% of women never share this information with their health care provider and anyone else for that matter.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n <\/p>\n Is there something wrong with me if I can\u2019t have an orgasm during vaginal penetration?<\/b><\/p>\n With its 10,000 highly sensitive nerve endings, the main function of the clitoris is to give pleasure. When stimulated, it becomes 3 times its size, and will ultimately bring you to an orgasm.\u00a0 During vaginal penetration, if may be difficult to have a clitoral orgasm but 25% of women can have a vaginal orgasm.\u00a0 The majority of women have a clitoral orgasm only during oral and manual stimulation of the clitoris. With patience and practice you can learn to have a vaginal orgasm, but you usually need to have the clitoris stimulated at the same time.<\/span><\/p>\n <\/p>\n Is it normal to feel like I wet the bed during sex?\u00a0\u00a0<\/b><\/p>\n Gushing, squirting, ejaculation and coming are all words to describe a true sexual phenomenon. When sexually aroused or stimulated there is an expulsion of fluid that comes from the glands around a women\u2019s urethra, or anterior surface of the vagina, during or before an orgasm.\u00a0 This occurrence is also thought to be related to having your G-spot stimulated.\u00a0 It was found that 10-40% of women have at one time or another had a \u201cgushing\u201d moment during orgasm.\u00a0 For some the gush feels as though you are wetting the bed and for others it is less obvious.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n <\/p>\n Vibrators<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n <\/p>\n Is it strange that I can only have an orgasm with my vibrator and not with my partner?<\/b><\/p>\n For many women having an orgasm with a vibrator is a no-brainer since there is not as much work involved.\u00a0 It\u2019s important to communicate what you like in bed, what gets you excited and what you like done to you to orgasm, in order to be able to have a sexually satisfying relationship with your partner<\/span>.<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n <\/p>\n What are the benefits of using a vibrator?<\/b><\/p>\n It\u2019s exciting to hear that over 50% of women own and use a vibrator regularly. Vibrators help us navigate our sexual hot spots more easily and, sometimes more efficiently.<\/span><\/p>\n Vibrators make having an orgasm easier, faster and even more intense for many women.\u00a0They can be a resourceful and effective way of masturbating. Vibrators can also help you guide your partner to what you especially like under the sheets.<\/span><\/p>\n How do vibrators actually help with orgasms?<\/b><\/p>\n Vibrators\u00a0can stimulate the clitoris in ways that makes achieving an orgasm much easier and faster especially for those that have other medical reasons that make having an orgasm harder to achieve.\u00a0\u00a0Medical conditions and aging can ruin your libido, decrease blood flow to the clitoris and vagina, dry up your normal vaginal secretions and cause pain with sexual penetration.\u00a0 A vibrator can be just what the doctor ordered.<\/span><\/p>\n Vibrators have long been a taboo and the best kept secret.\u00a0 The time is now to bring the vibrator out of the closet\u00a0as it\u2019s really a girl\u2019s best friend. It\u2019s time to\u00a0embrace our sexuality and enjoy using whatever type of sex toy turns you on.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n Does vibrator use decrease clitoral or vaginal sensitivity over time?\u00a0<\/b><\/p>\n \u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n The good news is using a vibrator should not decrease clitoral or vaginal sensitivity. Moderating in life should always be exercised even when using a vibrator. Excessive use of a vibrator\u00a0may make having an orgasm with your partner impossible.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n Vibrators can make it challenging for your partner to be as efficient in getting you to the finish line. Work with your partner so you don\u2019t become vibrator dependent.<\/span><\/p>\n I have been using a vibrator forever and now I am in a relationship, worried I won\u2019t be able to cum without one. What do you suggest?<\/b><\/p>\n For many women having an orgasm with a vibrator is a no-brainy, there is not much work involved.\u00a0 It\u2019s important to communicate what you like in bed and what gets you excited in order to be able to have a sexually satisfying relationship with your partner.\u00a0Variety is important in the bedroom otherwise your body will only want one way to orgasm.<\/span><\/p>\n What should I avoid when selecting the right vibrator for me?<\/b><\/p>\n It\u2019s so important to make sure the vibrator you buy is safe to use which means it should be free of toxic chemicals such as polyvinyl chloride (PVC), vinyl and jelly rubber which contain harmful phthalates toxins.\u00a0 You want to make sure the vibrator cannot cause any trauma to any of your lady parts including the vagina, labia or clitoris.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n Avoid vibrators that are absorbent, spongy, permeable or porous\/semi-porous materials since they increase the risk of bacteria buildup which can cause yeast, bacterial or urinary tract infections. \u00a0Porous material traps dirt and bacteria increasing the risk of a variety of infections. The better quality non-porous material is safer and less likely to increase your risk of infection.<\/span><\/p>\n <\/p>\n Also, always wash your vibrator with warm water and soap after and between using it.\u00a0 Finding a vibrator that looks easy to use and not too complicated!<\/span><\/p>\n <\/p>\n Can I be addicted to my vibrator?<\/b><\/p>\n Vibrator addiction can be a real thing if you allow it to be so. Moderation is the key in life, in health and in using a vibrator. You can really never over use a vibrator unless it starts to interfere with your daily activities such as work, school or your current sexual relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n Where is my G-Spot?<\/b><\/p>\n The G-spot is located 2 to 3 inches on the anterior entrance of the vagina feels prominent and spongy. Pushing your fingers 2 inches beyond the G-spot allows you to find the A-spot. Finding your personal sweet spots is unique for everyone. Practice makes perfect! Find your personal roadmap under the sheets, it\u2019s your responsibility!<\/span><\/p>\n Where is my A-Spot?<\/b><\/p>\n The A-spot is an erogenous zone in the vagina that can bring you to orgasm, multiple times, according to women who have found its location. The A-spot is located in one of the deepest parts of the top or front wall of the vagina. You can find it with fingers, reaching deep inside the vagina and sweeping your fingers in a windshield wiper motion.\u00a0 Pressure and movement with fingers may be the best way to find the A-spot.\u00a0 Others describe its location at the back end of the clitoris, where the wall inside the vagina begins to curve upwards. Vaginal sex with a penis is not necessary in order to find the A-spot. The A-spot can also be found with anal sex with an indirect stimulation between the vagina and the rectum which can stimulate this highly sensitive area.<\/span><\/p>\n <\/p>\n I love having sex with my GF using a dildo and strap on. It\u2019s a great orgasm for me, are dildo\u2019s safe?<\/b><\/p>\n Many women love to have something inside their vagina when their clitoris is being simulated.\u00a0If you don’t have a male partner, have a female partner or are going solo for some sexual satisfaction, dildos add that feeling of fullness inside the vagina while stimulating the clitoris.\u00a0 Dildos with a suction cup on the base allow you to attach it onto a shower wall and have wet n\u2019 wild time while conditioning your hair in the morning.\u00a0\u00a0Dildos are the perfect sex toy to use when masturbating, anytime day or night!\u00a0 Lesbians and bi-sexual women love using a dildo that is strapped onto their partner.\u00a0 Using a strap on belt allows your partner to use a dildo to penetrate the vagina or anus while caressing the clitoris at the same time.\u00a0 It\u2019s a definite turn on for this group of women!<\/span><\/p>\n Can Ben Wa Balls give me a yeast infection?<\/b><\/p>\n Ben Wa Balls, also known as Orgasm balls, Geisha balls, love balls, Kegel balls or smart balls allow your vagina to do some sexual bench pressing of the pelvic floor muscles. The weighted Ben Wa Balls places the vagina on stand by for something wonderful that is about to happen.\u00a0 These sexually tantalizing balls go inside the vagina to help tighten and squeeze the walls of the vagina against them.<\/span> This pelvic floor tightening is also known as a Kegel exercise which can increase sexual sensation before and during penetrative sex or orgasm. \u00a0Ben Wa Balls are also helpful for urinary incontinence and other pelvic floor dysfunction. Before and after using any kind of \u201cballs\u201d inside the vagina make sure you properly clean they with warm water and antibacterial soap and dry them well with a clean towel.<\/span><\/p>\n I want to try a Butt Plug with my partner, what is the best way to use them?<\/b><\/p>\n Butt plugs are a popular sex toy for all genders. Close to 40% of women have tried anal sex, at least one in their life, and many more have tried butt plugs. Butt plugs help stretch the opening of the anus, providing a full sensation that is pleasurable. It\u2019s best to start with a small or medium size butt plug. Make sure you are adequately lubricated, using silicone lube on the butt plug itself, and on the anal area, since the anus is not self-lubricating, like the vagina. Silicone lube will not break the material for a silicone butt plug and is the preferred lubricant. Make sure the size feels comfortable upon gentle insertion. Sometimes it\u2019s easier using a well lubricated finger inside the anus to help massage the opening of the anus in preparation for the butt plug. Doing so will make insertion of the butt plug easier. Once the anus is relaxed, you can gently insert the butt plug. With the butt plug inserted, squeeze the anus with the toy inside and this will help the anal sphincter relax and open. Once fully inserted you can enjoy the pleasure and \u201cfullness\u201d that the butt plug provides. Remember the butt plus is reserved for the booty only. Don\u2019t insert it into the vagina unless the butt plug been washed and cleaned thoroughly so harmful bacterial from the anus won\u2019t be transferred into the vagina. Have fun!<\/span><\/p>\n I swear I had an orgasm while my partner and I had a great make-out session. Does that happen?<\/b><\/p>\n Kissing is incredibly erotic, especially long and passionate \u201cmake out\u201d sessions with someone you love or like a lot. Passionate kissing is often the very best foreplay you can have during an intimate encounter. Since women are aroused in many different ways, the act of kissing can definitely bring you to orgasm without any sexual stimulation.<\/span><\/p>\n <\/p>\n Birth Control & Sex<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n <\/p>\n Can the birth control pill cause vaginal dryness?<\/b><\/p>\n Yes, the birth control pill can make your vagina feel like the Sahara Desert. If you are experiencing a new onset of vaginal dryness with your current birth control pill ask your healthcare provider to put you on another brand to see if it helps. Keep trying until you find the right pill, or change your birth control to an IUD or arm implant for less vaginal side effects.<\/span><\/p>\n <\/p>\n Can I get pregnant if I have sex on my period?\u00a0<\/b><\/p>\n While it\u2019s hard to get pregnant during your period there are many women who use their period as a form of contraception.\u00a0 For some women with shorter intervals between periods (for example 21 days between each period) these women ovulate on day 7 or 8 so they are prone to getting pregnant at the end of a long period.\u00a0 Ovulation is the 24 hour window when the egg is available for the sperm to fertilize.\u00a0 With fewer days between each period you will ovulate earlier in the month.\u00a0 For women who have a period every 21 days and a period lasting 7 days they can get pregnant on day 5, 6 or 7 if they have unprotected sex.\u00a0Even though the risk is small, pregnancy can happen since sperm can live for 3 days!\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n <\/p>\n My boyfriend likes the pulls out method for our birth control, how reliable is that so I don\u2019t get pregnant?<\/b><\/p>\n The pull out or withdrawal method is not a reliable birth control method. Some call it \u201cpull and pray\u201d method given its high failure rate. It tends to be passed on as a great birth control method by your group of BFF\u2019s. Right before ejaculation your partner might have released some fluid called \u201cpre-ejaculation\u201d which is the liquid that comes out of the penis before ejaculation.\u00a0 The liquid may have active and viable sperm that can make you pregnant.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n <\/p>\n Sex Toys<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n How do I clean my sex toy?<\/b><\/p>\n Here are some helpful cleaning rules to help avoid unwanted bacteria buildup that may cause vaginal and urinary tract infections.<\/span><\/p>\n <\/p>\n Can I overuse my vibrator? Can my vibrator desensitize my vagina?<\/b><\/p>\n Having an orgasm with a vibrator can take very little work\u2026flip the switch, clear your mind and you should be good to go! Vibrators can make it challenging for your partner to be as efficient in getting you to the finish line (so to speak). It\u2019s important to communicate what you like in bed, and what gets you excited, in order to be able to have a sexually satisfying relationship with your partner. You never want to be vibrator dependent!<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" What should I focus on in sexual wellness in my 20\u2019s? Your 20\u2019s are spent trying to understand your body, your sexuality and your ability to feel and receive pleasure.\u00a0 Every woman in her 20s is quietly trying to figure out what is \u201cher\u201d normal. 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