{"id":730,"date":"2026-01-26T13:06:47","date_gmt":"2026-01-26T13:06:47","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/portfolio.zenkoders.com\/ai-powered\/?p=730"},"modified":"2026-04-08T22:44:41","modified_gmt":"2026-04-08T22:44:41","slug":"what-to-say-and-do-and-what-not-to-when-someone-you-love-has-postpartum-depression-or-anxiety","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/portfolio.zenkoders.com\/ai-powered\/what-to-say-and-do-and-what-not-to-when-someone-you-love-has-postpartum-depression-or-anxiety\/","title":{"rendered":"What to say and do\u2014and what not to\u2014when someone you love has postpartum depression or anxiety"},"content":{"rendered":"<h3 class=\"article-sub-heading\">Key Takeaways<\/h3>\n<div class=\"article-list-slot\">\n<ul>\n<li data-t=\"{&quot;n&quot;:&quot;blueLinks&quot;,&quot;t&quot;:13,&quot;a&quot;:&quot;click&quot;,&quot;b&quot;:76}\">Postpartum depression and anxiety are common and serious, and loved ones play a crucial role in noticing symptoms and offering support.<\/li>\n<li data-t=\"{&quot;n&quot;:&quot;blueLinks&quot;,&quot;t&quot;:13,&quot;a&quot;:&quot;click&quot;,&quot;b&quot;:76}\">Simple, practical help can make daily life feel more manageable.<\/li>\n<li data-t=\"{&quot;n&quot;:&quot;blueLinks&quot;,&quot;t&quot;:13,&quot;a&quot;:&quot;click&quot;,&quot;b&quot;:76}\">Encouraging professional help and continuing to show up with patience and compassion can be lifesaving for new parents.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/div>\n<p data-t=\"{&quot;n&quot;:&quot;blueLinks&quot;,&quot;t&quot;:13,&quot;a&quot;:&quot;click&quot;,&quot;b&quot;:76}\">The postpartum phase is \u201csupposed\u201d to be a joyous time\u2014the celebration of a new arrival (or new arrivals). And it can be. However, it can also be full of overwhelming emotions that make daily functioning difficult for the approximately 20 to 25% of people who experience a perinatal mood and anxiety disorder (PMAD), like\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/www.parents.com\/baby\/health\/postpartum-depression\/postpartum-depression-timeline\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\" data-t=\"{&quot;n&quot;:&quot;destination&quot;,&quot;t&quot;:13,&quot;a&quot;:&quot;click&quot;,&quot;b&quot;:1,&quot;c.t&quot;:7}\">postpartum depression (PPD)<\/a>\u00a0or\u00a0<a class=\"recommendation-inline-link\" href=\"https:\/\/www.parents.com\/parenting\/moms\/healthy-mom\/the-other-postpartum-problem-anxiety\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\" data-t=\"{&quot;n&quot;:&quot;destination&quot;,&quot;t&quot;:13,&quot;a&quot;:&quot;click&quot;,&quot;b&quot;:1,&quot;c.t&quot;:7}\">postpartum anxiety<\/a>\u00a0(PPA).<\/p>\n<div class=\"intra-article-module\" data-t=\"{&quot;n&quot;:&quot;intraArticle&quot;,&quot;t&quot;:13}\">\n<div class=\"articlePageIntraArticleFullWidth ad-slot-placeholder left-image-intra-ad full-bleed-image-intra-ad\" data-ad-index=\"0\">\n<div class=\"intra-article-ad-full left-image-intra-ad full-bleed-image-intra-ad\">\n<div><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<p data-t=\"{&quot;n&quot;:&quot;blueLinks&quot;,&quot;t&quot;:13,&quot;a&quot;:&quot;click&quot;,&quot;b&quot;:76}\">We still have a long way to go in\u00a0<a class=\"recommendation-inline-link-ai\" href=\"https:\/\/www.parents.com\/postpartum-care-is-still-an-issue-11825648\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\" data-t=\"{&quot;n&quot;:&quot;destination&quot;,&quot;t&quot;:13,&quot;a&quot;:&quot;click&quot;,&quot;b&quot;:1,&quot;c.t&quot;:7}\">normalizing and supporting new parents<\/a>\u00a0with a PMAD, but psychologists stress that it\u2019s also vital to lift the people around them. Often, the challenges of loving someone with a PMAD force them to remain silent.<\/p>\n<p data-t=\"{&quot;n&quot;:&quot;blueLinks&quot;,&quot;t&quot;:13,&quot;a&quot;:&quot;click&quot;,&quot;b&quot;:76}\">\u201cThey may expect mom to be happy, tired, but overall grateful,\u201d says\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/www.couplestocradles.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\" data-t=\"{&quot;n&quot;:&quot;destination&quot;,&quot;t&quot;:13,&quot;a&quot;:&quot;click&quot;,&quot;b&quot;:1,&quot;c.t&quot;:7}\">Caitlin Slavens, BAACS, MC, R Psych<\/a>, a psychologist. \u201cPeople can be confused when a new mom feels numb, overwhelmed, or angry. Often, people feel out of their element and unsure what to do or say, so that they may do or say nothing at all.\u201d<\/p>\n<p data-t=\"{&quot;n&quot;:&quot;blueLinks&quot;,&quot;t&quot;:13,&quot;a&quot;:&quot;click&quot;,&quot;b&quot;:76}\">Or, the person may worsen the problem with well-meaning but potentially harmful words or actions.<\/p>\n<p class=\"continue-read-break\" data-t=\"{&quot;n&quot;:&quot;blueLinks&quot;,&quot;t&quot;:13,&quot;a&quot;:&quot;click&quot;,&quot;b&quot;:76}\">We want to change that. We spoke with mental healthcare professionals and OB\/GYNs and asked them: How can partners, friends, and family members assist someone with a PMAD? Their actionable and compassionate advice is provided below.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"article-sub-heading\">Know the Signs of Postpartum Depression and Anxiety<\/h2>\n<p data-t=\"{&quot;n&quot;:&quot;blueLinks&quot;,&quot;t&quot;:13,&quot;a&quot;:&quot;click&quot;,&quot;b&quot;:76}\">The postpartum period can be physically and emotionally overwhelming. In the days after delivery, a birthing person\u2019s hormones change. As a result, up to about 80% of women report baby blues symptoms within two to three days of birth, explains\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/www.sjpp.org\/find-a-doctor\/sheryl-ross-md\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\" data-t=\"{&quot;n&quot;:&quot;destination&quot;,&quot;t&quot;:13,&quot;a&quot;:&quot;click&quot;,&quot;b&quot;:1,&quot;c.t&quot;:7}\">Sherry Ross, MD, FACOG<\/a>, a board-certified OB\/GYN and Women\u2019s Health Expert at Providence Saint John\u2019s Health Center.<\/p>\n<p class=\"\" data-t=\"{&quot;n&quot;:&quot;blueLinks&quot;,&quot;t&quot;:13,&quot;a&quot;:&quot;click&quot;,&quot;b&quot;:76}\">\u201dNew moms may begin to feel depressed, anxious, upset, and frustrated,\u201d Dr. Ross says. \u201cThe baby blues get better within days or one to two weeks after delivery, whereas postpartum depression\u00a0and postpartum anxiety start to ramp up around this time.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p data-t=\"{&quot;n&quot;:&quot;blueLinks&quot;,&quot;t&quot;:13,&quot;a&quot;:&quot;click&quot;,&quot;b&quot;:76}\">First off, understanding the signs of PPD and PPA can help loved ones assist the people in their lives who may be suffering from the condition.<\/p>\n<h3 class=\"article-sub-heading\">Signs of postpartum depression<\/h3>\n<p data-t=\"{&quot;n&quot;:&quot;blueLinks&quot;,&quot;t&quot;:13,&quot;a&quot;:&quot;click&quot;,&quot;b&quot;:76}\">PPD is sometimes tricky to pinpoint. \u201cIt doesn\u2019t always look the same for every woman,\u201d Dr. Slavens says. \u201cFor many, it can manifest as anger, irritability, numbness, or not feeling connected to the baby.\u201d<\/p>\n<p data-t=\"{&quot;n&quot;:&quot;blueLinks&quot;,&quot;t&quot;:13,&quot;a&quot;:&quot;click&quot;,&quot;b&quot;:76}\">Dr. Slavens shares some other signs of PPD:<\/p>\n<div class=\"article-list-slot\">\n<ul>\n<li data-t=\"{&quot;n&quot;:&quot;blueLinks&quot;,&quot;t&quot;:13,&quot;a&quot;:&quot;click&quot;,&quot;b&quot;:76}\">Feelings of homelessness or emptiness.<\/li>\n<li data-t=\"{&quot;n&quot;:&quot;blueLinks&quot;,&quot;t&quot;:13,&quot;a&quot;:&quot;click&quot;,&quot;b&quot;:76}\">Crying easily or feeling emotionally flat.<\/li>\n<li data-t=\"{&quot;n&quot;:&quot;blueLinks&quot;,&quot;t&quot;:13,&quot;a&quot;:&quot;click&quot;,&quot;b&quot;:76}\">Irritability or rage that may come out of nowhere.<\/li>\n<li data-t=\"{&quot;n&quot;:&quot;blueLinks&quot;,&quot;t&quot;:13,&quot;a&quot;:&quot;click&quot;,&quot;b&quot;:76}\">Guilt or shame about not being a \u201chappy new mom.\u201d<\/li>\n<li data-t=\"{&quot;n&quot;:&quot;blueLinks&quot;,&quot;t&quot;:13,&quot;a&quot;:&quot;click&quot;,&quot;b&quot;:76}\">Not feeling bonded to the baby.<\/li>\n<li data-t=\"{&quot;n&quot;:&quot;blueLinks&quot;,&quot;t&quot;:13,&quot;a&quot;:&quot;click&quot;,&quot;b&quot;:76}\">Low energy.<\/li>\n<li data-t=\"{&quot;n&quot;:&quot;blueLinks&quot;,&quot;t&quot;:13,&quot;a&quot;:&quot;click&quot;,&quot;b&quot;:76}\">Changes in appetite or sleep (beyond what would be expected in the postpartum period).<\/li>\n<li data-t=\"{&quot;n&quot;:&quot;blueLinks&quot;,&quot;t&quot;:13,&quot;a&quot;:&quot;click&quot;,&quot;b&quot;:76}\">Feeling overwhelmed by daily tasks.<\/li>\n<li data-t=\"{&quot;n&quot;:&quot;blueLinks&quot;,&quot;t&quot;:13,&quot;a&quot;:&quot;click&quot;,&quot;b&quot;:76}\">Thoughts of wanting to escape or feeling like your family would be better off without you.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<h3 class=\"article-sub-heading\">Signs of postpartum anxiety<\/h3>\n<p data-t=\"{&quot;n&quot;:&quot;blueLinks&quot;,&quot;t&quot;:13,&quot;a&quot;:&quot;click&quot;,&quot;b&quot;:76}\">Postpartum anxiety includes\u00a0<a class=\"recommendation-inline-link-ai\" href=\"https:\/\/www.parents.com\/what-no-one-told-me-about-postpartum-anxiety-11807690\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\" data-t=\"{&quot;n&quot;:&quot;destination&quot;,&quot;t&quot;:13,&quot;a&quot;:&quot;click&quot;,&quot;b&quot;:1,&quot;c.t&quot;:7}\">persistent worry, tension, or fear<\/a>\u00a0about the baby or their health that interferes with daily life, explains\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/www.mindpath.com\/clinicians\/brooke-wacker-pmhnp-bc\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\" data-t=\"{&quot;n&quot;:&quot;destination&quot;,&quot;t&quot;:13,&quot;a&quot;:&quot;click&quot;,&quot;b&quot;:1,&quot;c.t&quot;:7}\">Brooke Wacker, PMHNP-BC<\/a>, a psychiatric mental health nurse practitioner with Mindpath Health.<\/p>\n<p data-t=\"{&quot;n&quot;:&quot;blueLinks&quot;,&quot;t&quot;:13,&quot;a&quot;:&quot;click&quot;,&quot;b&quot;:76}\">\u201cIt\u2019s more than typical \u2018new mom worries,\u2019\u201d adds\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/www.joinphoenixhealth.com\/therapist-bios\/emily\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\" data-t=\"{&quot;n&quot;:&quot;destination&quot;,&quot;t&quot;:13,&quot;a&quot;:&quot;click&quot;,&quot;b&quot;:1,&quot;c.t&quot;:7}\">Emily Guarnotta, PsyD, PMH-C<\/a>, a psychologist and founder of Phoenix Health. \u201cIt feels like a constant state of being on high alert.\u201d<\/p>\n<p data-t=\"{&quot;n&quot;:&quot;blueLinks&quot;,&quot;t&quot;:13,&quot;a&quot;:&quot;click&quot;,&quot;b&quot;:76}\">Wacker says common signs and experiences associated with postpartum anxiety include:<\/p>\n<div class=\"article-list-slot\">\n<ul>\n<li data-t=\"{&quot;n&quot;:&quot;blueLinks&quot;,&quot;t&quot;:13,&quot;a&quot;:&quot;click&quot;,&quot;b&quot;:76}\">Excessive and\/or uncontrollable worry.<\/li>\n<li data-t=\"{&quot;n&quot;:&quot;blueLinks&quot;,&quot;t&quot;:13,&quot;a&quot;:&quot;click&quot;,&quot;b&quot;:76}\">Worst-case scenario fears (sometimes referred to as \u201cspiraing\u201d).<\/li>\n<li data-t=\"{&quot;n&quot;:&quot;blueLinks&quot;,&quot;t&quot;:13,&quot;a&quot;:&quot;click&quot;,&quot;b&quot;:76}\">Feeling on edge consistently.<\/li>\n<li data-t=\"{&quot;n&quot;:&quot;blueLinks&quot;,&quot;t&quot;:13,&quot;a&quot;:&quot;click&quot;,&quot;b&quot;:76}\">Restlessness or inability to relax.<\/li>\n<li data-t=\"{&quot;n&quot;:&quot;blueLinks&quot;,&quot;t&quot;:13,&quot;a&quot;:&quot;click&quot;,&quot;b&quot;:76}\">Irritability or agitation.<\/li>\n<li data-t=\"{&quot;n&quot;:&quot;blueLinks&quot;,&quot;t&quot;:13,&quot;a&quot;:&quot;click&quot;,&quot;b&quot;:76}\">Difficulty falling or staying asleep.<\/li>\n<li data-t=\"{&quot;n&quot;:&quot;blueLinks&quot;,&quot;t&quot;:13,&quot;a&quot;:&quot;click&quot;,&quot;b&quot;:76}\">Panic attacks or symptoms.<\/li>\n<li data-t=\"{&quot;n&quot;:&quot;blueLinks&quot;,&quot;t&quot;:13,&quot;a&quot;:&quot;click&quot;,&quot;b&quot;:76}\">Intrusive\/unwanted thoughts.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<h2 class=\"article-sub-heading\">What To Do (and Avoid) When Supporting Someone With a PMAD<\/h2>\n<p data-t=\"{&quot;n&quot;:&quot;blueLinks&quot;,&quot;t&quot;:13,&quot;a&quot;:&quot;click&quot;,&quot;b&quot;:76}\">Since everyone is different, it\u2019s impossible to provide a cookie-cutter guidebook for helping a loved one navigate a PMAD. But experts say they wish support people had more direction. These tips will help you support a friend, partner, or family member with a PMAD.<\/p>\n<h3 class=\"article-sub-heading\">Be specific<\/h3>\n<p data-t=\"{&quot;n&quot;:&quot;blueLinks&quot;,&quot;t&quot;:13,&quot;a&quot;:&quot;click&quot;,&quot;b&quot;:76}\">\u201cLet me know if you need anything\u201d is a well-meaning phrase, but the experts\u00a0<em>Parents<\/em>\u00a0spoke with suggest making a more personalized offer.<\/p>\n<p data-t=\"{&quot;n&quot;:&quot;blueLinks&quot;,&quot;t&quot;:13,&quot;a&quot;:&quot;click&quot;,&quot;b&quot;:76}\">\u201cOpen-ended offers&#8230;feel like one more thing on her to-do list,\u201d Dr. Guarnotta says. \u201cInstead, make a specific offer, such as \u2018I\u2019m running to the grocery store. Can I pick you up anything, like diapers or dinner for tonight?\u201d<\/p>\n<h3 class=\"article-sub-heading\">Double up on the hard tasks<\/h3>\n<p data-t=\"{&quot;n&quot;:&quot;blueLinks&quot;,&quot;t&quot;:13,&quot;a&quot;:&quot;click&quot;,&quot;b&quot;:76}\">When I was struggling with postpartum depression, I felt like I had a heavy weight on my body that made getting out of bed seem like a Herculean event. But I felt \u201cbad\u201d about letting anyone help me, so I loved this advice from Dr. Slavens, which lets a new parent complete tasks with a gentle assist.<\/p>\n<p data-t=\"{&quot;n&quot;:&quot;blueLinks&quot;,&quot;t&quot;:13,&quot;a&quot;:&quot;click&quot;,&quot;b&quot;:76}\">\u201cPPD\/PPA can make relatively simple tasks feel impossible,\u201d Dr. Slavens says. \u201cHaving someone alongside while completing tasks makes it much more attainable. Fold laundry, prep meals, and do dishes together.\u201d<\/p>\n<h3 class=\"article-sub-heading\">Protect their sleep<\/h3>\n<p data-t=\"{&quot;n&quot;:&quot;blueLinks&quot;,&quot;t&quot;:13,&quot;a&quot;:&quot;click&quot;,&quot;b&quot;:76}\">Babies need to eat frequently\u2014that\u2019s natural. But Dr. Guarnotta points out that poor sleep is a risk factor for PPD and PPA.<\/p>\n<p data-t=\"{&quot;n&quot;:&quot;blueLinks&quot;,&quot;t&quot;:13,&quot;a&quot;:&quot;click&quot;,&quot;b&quot;:76}\">\u201cThis is why it\u2019s so important to help her get good sleep,\u201d Dr. Guarnotta says. \u201cOne way to do this is to offer to take on a shift, whether that\u2019s in the middle of the night or in the early morning, providing her with several hours of uninterrupted sleep time.\u201d<\/p>\n<p data-t=\"{&quot;n&quot;:&quot;blueLinks&quot;,&quot;t&quot;:13,&quot;a&quot;:&quot;click&quot;,&quot;b&quot;:76}\">If the person is nursing or pumping, partners and other caretakers can:<\/p>\n<div class=\"article-list-slot\">\n<ul>\n<li data-t=\"{&quot;n&quot;:&quot;blueLinks&quot;,&quot;t&quot;:13,&quot;a&quot;:&quot;click&quot;,&quot;b&quot;:76}\">Handle diaper changes.<\/li>\n<li data-t=\"{&quot;n&quot;:&quot;blueLinks&quot;,&quot;t&quot;:13,&quot;a&quot;:&quot;click&quot;,&quot;b&quot;:76}\">Put the baby back to sleep.<\/li>\n<li data-t=\"{&quot;n&quot;:&quot;blueLinks&quot;,&quot;t&quot;:13,&quot;a&quot;:&quot;click&quot;,&quot;b&quot;:76}\">Wash pump parts.<\/li>\n<li data-t=\"{&quot;n&quot;:&quot;blueLinks&quot;,&quot;t&quot;:13,&quot;a&quot;:&quot;click&quot;,&quot;b&quot;:76}\">Manage most or all other household tasks so the lactating parent can sleep when the baby sleeps.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/div>\n<h3 class=\"article-sub-heading\">Open your ears first<\/h3>\n<p data-t=\"{&quot;n&quot;:&quot;blueLinks&quot;,&quot;t&quot;:13,&quot;a&quot;:&quot;click&quot;,&quot;b&quot;:76}\">This one is especially crucial because, as we said, there\u2019s no one-size-fits-all support for someone with a PMAD.<\/p>\n<p data-t=\"{&quot;n&quot;:&quot;blueLinks&quot;,&quot;t&quot;:13,&quot;a&quot;:&quot;click&quot;,&quot;b&quot;:76}\">\u201cFirst and foremost, express empathy and understanding,\u201d says\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/doctors.hackensackmeridianhealth.org\/provider\/meghan-i-rattigan\/1317805\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\" data-t=\"{&quot;n&quot;:&quot;destination&quot;,&quot;t&quot;:13,&quot;a&quot;:&quot;click&quot;,&quot;b&quot;:1,&quot;c.t&quot;:7}\">Meghan Rattigan, DO,<\/a>\u00a0a board-certified OB\/GYN with Hackensack Meridian Jersey Shore University Medical Center. \u201cLet them know that this is not something that they are choosing, and it is not their fault. Validate their feelings by asking what needs they need met at this time.\u201d<\/p>\n<h3 class=\"article-sub-heading\">Avoid common pitfalls<\/h3>\n<p data-t=\"{&quot;n&quot;:&quot;blueLinks&quot;,&quot;t&quot;:13,&quot;a&quot;:&quot;click&quot;,&quot;b&quot;:76}\">Witnessing someone going through a PMAD can put you on an emotional rollercoaster. You may feel overwhelmed, frustrated, surprised, or helpless. While understandable, one OB\/GYN stresses it\u2019s important to steer clear of standard responses to PMAD.<\/p>\n<p data-t=\"{&quot;n&quot;:&quot;blueLinks&quot;,&quot;t&quot;:13,&quot;a&quot;:&quot;click&quot;,&quot;b&quot;:76}\">Dr. Rattigan does not suggest:<\/p>\n<div class=\"article-list-slot\">\n<ul>\n<li data-t=\"{&quot;n&quot;:&quot;blueLinks&quot;,&quot;t&quot;:13,&quot;a&quot;:&quot;click&quot;,&quot;b&quot;:76}\">Ignoring their behavior and acting as if nothing is wrong.<\/li>\n<li data-t=\"{&quot;n&quot;:&quot;blueLinks&quot;,&quot;t&quot;:13,&quot;a&quot;:&quot;click&quot;,&quot;b&quot;:76}\">Shaming them for their feelings, such as telling them to \u201cjust snap out of it.\u201d<\/li>\n<li data-t=\"{&quot;n&quot;:&quot;blueLinks&quot;,&quot;t&quot;:13,&quot;a&quot;:&quot;click&quot;,&quot;b&quot;:76}\">Discouraging the person from seeking help or medication.<\/li>\n<li data-t=\"{&quot;n&quot;:&quot;blueLinks&quot;,&quot;t&quot;:13,&quot;a&quot;:&quot;click&quot;,&quot;b&quot;:76}\">Offering unsolicited advice.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/div>\n<p data-t=\"{&quot;n&quot;:&quot;blueLinks&quot;,&quot;t&quot;:13,&quot;a&quot;:&quot;click&quot;,&quot;b&quot;:76}\">\u201cSome people are afraid to reach out to a person who may be suffering from PPD\/PPA simply because they don\u2019t know what to say or what to do,\u201d Dr. Rattigan says. \u201cThis only amplifies their\u00a0<a class=\"recommendation-inline-link-ai\" href=\"https:\/\/www.parents.com\/parenting-can-be-isolating-youre-not-alone-7098051\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\" data-t=\"{&quot;n&quot;:&quot;destination&quot;,&quot;t&quot;:13,&quot;a&quot;:&quot;click&quot;,&quot;b&quot;:1,&quot;c.t&quot;:7}\">feelings of isolation<\/a>.\u201d<\/p>\n<h3 class=\"article-sub-heading\">Try these helpful phrases instead<\/h3>\n<p data-t=\"{&quot;n&quot;:&quot;blueLinks&quot;,&quot;t&quot;:13,&quot;a&quot;:&quot;click&quot;,&quot;b&quot;:76}\">The experts we spoke with share that not knowing what to say is a common concern of people caring for someone with a PMAD. These phrases can help start or continue a conversation.<\/p>\n<div class=\"article-list-slot\">\n<ul>\n<li data-t=\"{&quot;n&quot;:&quot;blueLinks&quot;,&quot;t&quot;:13,&quot;a&quot;:&quot;click&quot;,&quot;b&quot;:76}\"><strong>\u201cYou are going through so many\u00a0<a class=\"recommendation-inline-link-ai\" href=\"https:\/\/www.parents.com\/pregnancy\/my-body\/postpartum\/postpartum-hormone-changes\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\" data-t=\"{&quot;n&quot;:&quot;destination&quot;,&quot;t&quot;:13,&quot;a&quot;:&quot;click&quot;,&quot;b&quot;:1,&quot;c.t&quot;:7}\">hormonal changes<\/a>, and much of what you\u2019re experiencing is out of your control.\u201d\u00a0<\/strong>Dr. Ross notes that this phrase reminds a postpartum person that they didn\u2019t do anything to cause their experience.<\/li>\n<li data-t=\"{&quot;n&quot;:&quot;blueLinks&quot;,&quot;t&quot;:13,&quot;a&quot;:&quot;click&quot;,&quot;b&quot;:76}\"><strong>\u201cI will touch base with you in the morning.\u201d<\/strong>\u00a0Dr. Ross reports that people in the throes of PPD and PPA may not know how to express themselves after you approach them. \u201cLetting them know you\u2019ll reach out tomorrow morning allows them to prepare, emotionally and physically, to have another chance to express their feelings with you,\u201d Dr. Ross says.<\/li>\n<li data-t=\"{&quot;n&quot;:&quot;blueLinks&quot;,&quot;t&quot;:13,&quot;a&quot;:&quot;click&quot;,&quot;b&quot;:76}\"><strong>\u201cYou don\u2019t have to pretend to be OK around me.\u201d\u00a0<\/strong>People with a PMAD often worry about burdening others. Dr. Slavens loves that this phrase tells them they don\u2019t need to wear a mask.<\/li>\n<li data-t=\"{&quot;n&quot;:&quot;blueLinks&quot;,&quot;t&quot;:13,&quot;a&quot;:&quot;click&quot;,&quot;b&quot;:76}\"><strong>\u201cYou are a good parent who is having a hard time.\u201d\u00a0<\/strong>Guilt and a PMAD can go hand in hand. \u201cMany moms with PPD and PPA feel like they are failing at motherhood and failing their babies,\u201d Dr. Guarnotta says. \u201cA statement like this separates who she is from her condition and tells her that you can be a good parent and struggle.\u201d<\/li>\n<li data-t=\"{&quot;n&quot;:&quot;blueLinks&quot;,&quot;t&quot;:13,&quot;a&quot;:&quot;click&quot;,&quot;b&quot;:76}\">\u201c<strong>Thank you for telling me, that takes strength.\u201d\u00a0<\/strong>Wacker says that people with a PMAD may view it as a weakness. This phrase conveys that recognizing their struggles and reaching out for assistance shows strength.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<h3 class=\"article-sub-heading\">Gently encourage and normalize professional support<\/h3>\n<p data-t=\"{&quot;n&quot;:&quot;blueLinks&quot;,&quot;t&quot;:13,&quot;a&quot;:&quot;click&quot;,&quot;b&quot;:76}\">Dr. Slavens says parents struggling with PPA and PMD can feel like finding support is impossible. You can do some of that legwork.<\/p>\n<p data-t=\"{&quot;n&quot;:&quot;blueLinks&quot;,&quot;t&quot;:13,&quot;a&quot;:&quot;click&quot;,&quot;b&quot;:76}\">\u201cWhen someone is there to give them the link, phone number, or a personal recommendation, it is way more likely they will follow through,\u201d Dr. Slavens says. \u201cIt can simply be, &#8216;This is my therapist&#8217;s recommendation for a perinatal therapist,\u2019 or \u2018Let&#8217;s make a doctor&#8217;s appointment for next week.\u2019\u201d<\/p>\n<h3 class=\"article-sub-heading\">Keep showing up<\/h3>\n<p data-t=\"{&quot;n&quot;:&quot;blueLinks&quot;,&quot;t&quot;:13,&quot;a&quot;:&quot;click&quot;,&quot;b&quot;:76}\">One phrase or tag-teamed laundry-folding marathon isn\u2019t going to \u201cfix\u201d a person\u2019s PMAD. It takes time, and progress isn\u2019t always linear.<\/p>\n<p data-t=\"{&quot;n&quot;:&quot;blueLinks&quot;,&quot;t&quot;:13,&quot;a&quot;:&quot;click&quot;,&quot;b&quot;:76}\">\u201cPPA\/PPD can make moms withdraw from their support system,\u201d Dr. Slavens explains. \u201cYou want to be consistent, yet gentle, and show them they are enough, and that you are there for them, even if they are struggling. This may look like a quick text check-in, food or coffee drop-off, and send an uplifting or funny meme.\u201d<\/p>\n<h3 class=\"article-sub-heading\">Care for yourself<\/h3>\n<p data-t=\"{&quot;n&quot;:&quot;blueLinks&quot;,&quot;t&quot;:13,&quot;a&quot;:&quot;click&quot;,&quot;b&quot;:76}\">Caring for a person with a PMAD \u2014\u00a0and a baby, too \u2014\u00a0can feel all-consuming. But remember that you matter, too.<\/p>\n<p data-t=\"{&quot;n&quot;:&quot;blueLinks&quot;,&quot;t&quot;:13,&quot;a&quot;:&quot;click&quot;,&quot;b&quot;:76}\">\u201cCaring for people who are suffering from PPD\/PPA can invoke feelings of frustration and anger within yourself,\u201d Dr. Rattigan says. \u201cKnow when to take a break. Make sure that you are\u00a0<a class=\"recommendation-inline-link-ai\" href=\"https:\/\/www.parents.com\/moms-arent-focusing-on-self-care-11753410\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\" data-t=\"{&quot;n&quot;:&quot;destination&quot;,&quot;t&quot;:13,&quot;a&quot;:&quot;click&quot;,&quot;b&quot;:1,&quot;c.t&quot;:7}\">practicing self-care<\/a>\u00a0\u2014 getting adequate sleep, nutrition, and exercise \u2014\u00a0and that you have an outlet \u2014 a trusted friend or therapist \u2014 to help you be as supportive as possible.\u201d<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"article-sub-heading\">When To Seek Crisis Assistance<\/h2>\n<p data-t=\"{&quot;n&quot;:&quot;blueLinks&quot;,&quot;t&quot;:13,&quot;a&quot;:&quot;click&quot;,&quot;b&quot;:76}\">PMADs are treatable and take time. But there are instances when it\u2019s critical to call for immediate help.<\/p>\n<p data-t=\"{&quot;n&quot;:&quot;blueLinks&quot;,&quot;t&quot;:13,&quot;a&quot;:&quot;click&quot;,&quot;b&quot;:76}\">Wacker says it\u2019s crucial to look out for signs that a new parent wants to disappear, die, or cause harm to themselves. Statements like \u201cEveryone would be better off without me\u201d are a red flag.<\/p>\n<p data-t=\"{&quot;n&quot;:&quot;blueLinks&quot;,&quot;t&quot;:13,&quot;a&quot;:&quot;click&quot;,&quot;b&quot;:76}\">Additionally, Dr. Guarnotta says it\u2019s important to be aware of the\u00a0<a class=\"recommendation-inline-link-ai\" href=\"https:\/\/www.parents.com\/postpartum-symptoms-8643540\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\" data-t=\"{&quot;n&quot;:&quot;destination&quot;,&quot;t&quot;:13,&quot;a&quot;:&quot;click&quot;,&quot;b&quot;:1,&quot;c.t&quot;:7}\">signs of postpartum psychosis<\/a>\u00a0(PPP). PPP\u2014like PPD and PPA\u2014is treatable with the appropriate support (including emergency intervention).<\/p>\n<p data-t=\"{&quot;n&quot;:&quot;blueLinks&quot;,&quot;t&quot;:13,&quot;a&quot;:&quot;click&quot;,&quot;b&quot;:76}\">Keep an eye out for signs like these in your loved one.<\/p>\n<div class=\"article-list-slot\">\n<ul>\n<li data-t=\"{&quot;n&quot;:&quot;blueLinks&quot;,&quot;t&quot;:13,&quot;a&quot;:&quot;click&quot;,&quot;b&quot;:76}\">A break from reality.<\/li>\n<li data-t=\"{&quot;n&quot;:&quot;blueLinks&quot;,&quot;t&quot;:13,&quot;a&quot;:&quot;click&quot;,&quot;b&quot;:76}\">Hallucinations (seeing or hearing things that are not there).<\/li>\n<li data-t=\"{&quot;n&quot;:&quot;blueLinks&quot;,&quot;t&quot;:13,&quot;a&quot;:&quot;click&quot;,&quot;b&quot;:76}\">Delusions (fixed beliefs that are false).<\/li>\n<li data-t=\"{&quot;n&quot;:&quot;blueLinks&quot;,&quot;t&quot;:13,&quot;a&quot;:&quot;click&quot;,&quot;b&quot;:76}\">Paranoia.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/div>\n<p data-t=\"{&quot;n&quot;:&quot;blueLinks&quot;,&quot;t&quot;:13,&quot;a&quot;:&quot;click&quot;,&quot;b&quot;:76}\">\u201cIf a loved one is showing signs, do not leave them alone,\u201d Dr. Guarnotta says. \u201cTake them to the nearest emergency room and contact 911. Be sure to let emergency services know that she is experiencing a\u00a0<a class=\"recommendation-inline-link-ai\" href=\"https:\/\/www.parents.com\/mothers-mental-health-declining-11746626\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\" data-t=\"{&quot;n&quot;:&quot;destination&quot;,&quot;t&quot;:13,&quot;a&quot;:&quot;click&quot;,&quot;b&quot;:1,&quot;c.t&quot;:7}\">mental health crisis<\/a>, so they can be sensitive in how they approach her.\u201d<\/p>\n<p data-t=\"{&quot;n&quot;:&quot;blueLinks&quot;,&quot;t&quot;:13,&quot;a&quot;:&quot;click&quot;,&quot;b&quot;:76}\">The\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/988lifeline.org\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\" data-t=\"{&quot;n&quot;:&quot;destination&quot;,&quot;t&quot;:13,&quot;a&quot;:&quot;click&quot;,&quot;b&quot;:1,&quot;c.t&quot;:7}\">Suicide and Crisis Lifeline<\/a>\u00a0has people standing by 24\/7 in English and in Spanish for text or voice calls at 988.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Key Takeaways Postpartum depression and anxiety are common and serious, and loved ones play a crucial role in noticing symptoms and offering support. Simple, practical help can make daily life feel more manageable. Encouraging professional help and continuing to show up with patience and compassion can be lifesaving for new parents. 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