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All kinds of things are going on with your body\u2014and they might be interfering with your sex life. Here, experts and real parents share ways to feel good and stay connected.<\/div>\n
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Sex during pregnancy can feel very different from sex pre-pregnancy\u2014and you may find yourself dealing with some unexpected challenges. After all, your body goes through a significant transformation to grow and carry a baby, and that can prompt new sensations\u2014both physical and emotional\u2014that may call for some adjustments to your normal routine in the bedroom. But, truthfully, this may be a great way to prepare for the unexpected surprises you\u2019ll face after baby arrives. \u201cFor couples, pregnancy is probably the first time there\u2019s a change in their sex life since they\u2019ve been together,\u201d says\u00a0Judith Steinhart<\/a>, Ed.D, a New York City\u2013based clinical sexologist and sexuality educator. \u201cI\u2019d like to think it prepares people for the changes that\u2019ll happen over their lifetime together.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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That was the case for The Bump community member\u00a0starsaligned13<\/a>: \u201cMy husband and I have been married five years, and never had an issue with sex. We\u2019re young and in love\u2014that\u2019s how I got pregnant! But now, I can\u2019t get into the headspace. I\u2019ve lost my libido, I\u2019m feeling very disconnected from my pelvic floor and abdominals and I keep thinking our baby is\u00a0with us<\/em>\u00a0in these intimate moments.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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While sex-life ebbs and flows are normal, some of the shifts that occur during pregnancy can take you out of your comfort zone\u2014literally and figuratively. Here\u2019s how to deal so these so-called pregnancy sex issues don\u2019t interfere with your connection to your partner.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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You Feel Unattractive<\/h2>\n<\/div>\n
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Some women feel incredibly sexy during pregnancy, but that\u2019s not always the case. Pregnancy brings tons of\u00a0bodily changes<\/a>\u00a0that can leave you feeling a little lost in your own skin, such as\u00a0bloating<\/a>, excessive\u00a0sweating<\/a>\u00a0and\u00a0weight gain<\/a>\u00a0(which is necessary for a healthy pregnancy!). \u201cThe woman\u2019s body undergoes so many changes during pregnancy. It\u2019s important to remind yourself of this to normalize body changes and the feelings that come with it,\u201d says\u00a0Alejandra Lucatero<\/a>, LCSW, a licensed social worker who specializes in sexual health at the Hawaii Center for Sexual and Relationship Health in Honolulu.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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To counter this, lean into the things that make you feel good and comfortable in your own body, Lucatero suggests, such as getting your hair or nails done and wearing\u00a0lingerie<\/a>.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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Betsy Greenleaf<\/a>, DO, a pelvic reconstruction surgeon and member of the plusOne Wellness Collective, says that\u00a0self-care routines<\/a>\u00a0and doing things that make you feel good\u2014like a\u00a0maternity photoshoot<\/a>\u2014can help.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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Most importantly, open up to your partner about how you\u2019re feeling. They probably still find you\u00a0very<\/em>\u00a0attractive, and hearing words of encouragement from them may help bring some reassurance. Plus, don\u2019t forget to change how you talk to yourself. Embrace kindness and grace in your self-talk.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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You Have Increased Discharge<\/h2>\n<\/div>\n
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Thanks to increases in blood flow, estrogen and progesterone, your body produces more\u00a0vaginal discharge<\/a>\u00a0during pregnancy\u2014which may leave you feeling extra, well, \u201cdamp\u201d down there. It may not be your favorite\u00a0pregnancy symptom<\/a>, but discharge actually serves a really important purpose: it helps get rid of bacteria that could harm you and baby. \u201cDischarge is the vagina\u2019s natural way of cleansing itself,\u201d Lucatero explains, adding you want to avoid douching, as it can disrupt your vagina\u2019s natural pH balance.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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To feel more comfortable, consider using undyed, organic panty liners, as well as breathable cotton underwear and loose clothing. If the extra discharge is getting in the way in the bedroom, maybe skip the bed altogether and opt for shower sex\u2014just be careful not to slip, as your center of gravity is off during pregnancy.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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You\u2019re Experiencing Extra Swelling and Sensitivity<\/h2>\n<\/div>\n
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For some moms-to-be, the increased blood flow to the pelvic region makes them more sensitive in a really, really good way (read: more\u00a0orgasms<\/a>). This was the case for The Bump community member\u00a0knottie07743f319179a752<\/a>\u00a0as she entered her second trimester. \u201cMy husband and I didn\u2019t do it too much in the first trimester because I felt so sick, but we\u2019ve been doing it a lot more in the second trimester,\u201d she says. \u201cI think the increased blood flow in my body has made it extra sensitive in a good way.\u201d But for others, the sensitivity can make sex uncomfortable and maybe even\u00a0painful<\/a>. If that\u2019s the case for you, try switching up\u00a0positions<\/a>\u00a0to see if that helps. You can also try using a water-based lube, but if it\u2019s not working, it\u2019s okay to not have sex and use gentler forms of intimacy, Greenleaf says. There are some other fun things you can do with your partner that don\u2019t involve penetration. You can also build intimacy with other routes, like asking your partner to give you a foot rub. (Bonus: It may also help with any\u00a0swollen feet<\/a>!)<\/p>\n

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Sore Breasts Make Sex Uncomfortable<\/h2>\n<\/div>\n
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They may look fantastically plump right now, but if your breasts\u00a0feel sore<\/a>\u00a0when your partner touches them, know you\u2019re not alone. Your breasts start getting ready to make\u00a0milk<\/a>\u00a0early on in pregnancy, and that increased blood flow to the chest\u2014particularly during the first trimester\u2014can make them achy and sensitive. \u201cCommunicate with your partner about what\u2019s off-limits,\u201d Greenleaf says. They may have to keep their hands off (and you may want less bouncing) for a little while. \u201cWhatever the issue is, it isn\u2019t going to last forever,\u201d reminds Steinhart. Many moms-to-be find the soreness goes away in the second trimester. (You might prefer your partner to keep their hands off later on if you\u2019re\u00a0breastfeeding<\/a>\u00a0too.)<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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Alternatively, Lucatero notes a breast massage from your partner may be a form of intimacy that can help relieve some aches and pains. Just be careful to avoid\u00a0nipple stimulation<\/a>\u00a0at the end of pregnancy as it may increase the risk of\u00a0preterm labor<\/a>.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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Pregnancy Fatigue Makes You Sleepy<\/h2>\n<\/div>\n
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Pregnancy fatigue<\/a>\u00a0is very real, and rest is a priority in pregnancy. While you can do things like have a consistent bedtime routine,\u00a0eat well<\/a>\u00a0and\u00a0exercise<\/a>\u00a0to improve your energy levels, you may not have extra energy for the bedroom. To work around this, remember that \u201cconnection matters more than activity,\u201d Greenleaf says. Consider low-energy forms for intimacy, like spooning in bed or cuddling on the couch. \u201cWe barely had sex while pregnant,\u201d shares\u00a0harpseal135<\/a>, a community member on The Bump. \u201cMy husband respected how I was feeling and intimacy was not sex related: cuddling, kissing, holding hands, him feeling baby kicks, etc.\u2014that was \u2018sex\u2019 for us and he didn\u2019t care.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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Your Partner\u2019s Not Into It<\/h2>\n<\/div>\n
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According to\u00a0Sherry Ross<\/a>, MD, an ob-gyn and women\u2019s sexual health expert, many male partners are afraid of sex during pregnancy because they fear it could hurt baby or cause labor. (Spoiler, that\u2019s not typically true.) But if your partner isn\u2019t into sex these days, it could also be because they\u2019re just not in the mood. The key to both of these circumstances is honest communication. \u201cTalk to your partner. Keep an open mind and provide empathy and compassion to their experiences,\u201d Lucatero says. You should also include them in doctor visits so they can ask any questions. The key to helping your partner through any anxiety is to talk it out and go slow. You may also \u201cexplore other forms of intimacy like outercourse or mutual masturbation,\u201d Greenleaf notes.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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Your Growing Bump\u2014and Baby\u2014Are Getting in the Way<\/h2>\n<\/div>\n
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If your baby bump is making your favorite positions a little less pleasant, consider switching things up. Greenleaf and Ross recommend different\u00a0positions<\/a>\u00a0such as you-on-top or at the edge of the bed. Ultimately, the best position will be the one that\u2019s most comfortable for you and your partner. Plus, you can also use \u201csafe intimacy devices or mutual self-pleasure to adapt,\u201d Greenleaf adds.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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Of course, as your bump grows, you may find it harder to ignore baby\u2019s presence\u2014and that may make things a little uncomfortable. As The Bump community member\u00a0FutureMrsCaesar<\/a>\u00a0shares, it was hard for her partner to get over the fact that their baby was \u201cpresent\u201d in the room. \u201cOur sex life took a nosedive during my first pregnancy, and it wasn\u2019t until afterward that my husband finally admitted that having sex and knowing there was a baby in there weirded him out\u2026The belly is a constant reminder that there\u2019s a baby in there, and there\u2019s really no way of blocking that out.\u201d Rest assured, baby won\u2019t know what\u2019s going on\u2014they just know you\u2019re moving around.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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You Have A Lagging Libido<\/h2>\n<\/div>\n
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When you\u2019re feeling bloating, nauseous and exhausted, it can be hard to find yourself wanting sex at all. \u201cIt\u2019s not unusual to have a\u00a0low libido during pregnancy<\/a>\u00a0due to hormonal changes, fear of a miscarriage, breaking the bag of water, hurting baby or being self-conscious about body changes and weight gain,\u201d Ross says. \u201cHaving good communication with your partner is the best foreplay a person could ask for.\u201d Make it clear to your partner that your lack of sex drive is not about a \u201clack of love,\u201d Steinhart agrees.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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All experts note that the best way to improve sex drive during pregnancy is with a close connection to your partner with other forms of intimacy such as cuddling, kissing, dancing, hand-holding,\u00a0massages<\/a> and more. \u201cFocus on emotional closeness and affection without pressure for sex,\u201d Greenleaf says.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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And, remember, pregnancy isn\u2019t forever, but your partnership is. \u201cPregnancy feels long, but in the grand scheme of a marriage, it\u2019s not. It\u2019s a season when your priority is growing a human and then recovering from growing a human. During that season, intimacy just looks and feels different,\u201d shares\u00a0rachelredhead<\/a>, a community member on The Bump. \u201cThink about reframing sex a bit\u2026 Just shoot for closeness and intimacy, and then any kind of physical connection will be a success.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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You Have a Surging Libido<\/h2>\n<\/div>\n
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Look out for the second trimester: This is the time when pregnancy might actually be making you\u00a0want sex more<\/a>\u00a0than in your pre-pregnancy life. While this can be a good thing, recognize that your libido may not match up with your partner\u2019s. It can sometimes be intimidating for your partner if your sexual energy surpasses your usual pattern, Steinhart explains: \u201cYour partner might get worried about not being able to please you.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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If your libido isn\u2019t in sync with your partner\u2019s, don\u2019t be afraid to go solo. Your partner can always jump in later on or include themselves in ways that may not be typical for you in the bedroom. \u201cEnjoy it with communication and consent,\u201d Greenleaf says, adding, \u201cSelf-pleasure and intimacy aids can also be helpful.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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You\u2019re Worried About Spotting After Sex<\/h2>\n<\/div>\n
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Light\u00a0spotting after sex<\/a>\u00a0is common in pregnancy because the cervix is more sensitive, Greenleaf says. While you should let your provider know of any spotting, all the experts note this isn\u2019t cause for concern as long as the bleeding isn\u2019t heavy, persistent or painful. You may be worried about harming baby, but they\u2019re \u201cprotected inside the amniotic sac and uterus,\u201d says Greenleaf. Unless you have a certain condition that would prompt your doctor to caution against sex, it\u2019s deemed perfectly safe during pregnancy.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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Sex Has Become Painful<\/h2>\n<\/div>\n
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There are a few reasons sex might be\u00a0painful<\/a>\u00a0during pregnancy, including vaginal dryness. What\u2019s more, positions that allow for deeper penetration might not feel so good right now. To counter these issues, the experts recommend trying a water-based lubricant, as well as switching to positions that avoid deep penetration. Again, the key here is to communicate with your partner and let them know what feels good, what doesn\u2019t and explore other options of intimacy.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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When to Talk to Your Provider<\/h2>\n<\/div>\n
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The experts note if you have any of the following symptoms during or after sex, you should reach out to your healthcare provider:<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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