On average it takes men 5 minutes to have an orgasm, and women, well, no surprise, 13-20 minutes to orgasm. This is where foreplay becomes the key ingredient to success and allowing yourself to have a more intense and prolonged orgasm. This is an important statistic that I wish every woman and man understood so no one feels pressured to come together or quickly.

You are definitely in the norm if you are not having an orgasm with vaginal intercourse. Roughly 25% of women can have an orgasm during vaginal intercourse. If a woman is on the top during vaginal intercourse, a partner can stimulate the clitoris with his hand during penetration. Over 75% of women need some sort of clitoral stimulation to have an orgasm. If you are not having an orgasm with clitoral stimulation with your partner may need to give this important organ more attention. Stimulation of the clitoris by caressing, gently (or not) or licking this highly sensitive organ works well to achieve orgasm in a deliberate and slow fashion. Using a lubricant, extra virgin coconut oil and olive oil can heighten the pleasure of touch and help bring on an orgasm more quickly and more intensely.